Thursday, October 31, 2013

Stop doubting yourself

T & I find ourselves always, well most nights, talking in bed going over things that have happened thru our day, things that happened with the littles and we seems to always come to the conclusion that we're just not the great mothers we think we are or can be.

We'll replay an argument between the kids and how we handled it, or how MeKai came home just talking non-stop and all we could do was nod and say "uh-huh, thats cool" because we tuned him out after the first 3 minutes and we sit there tears in our eyes, well MY eyes, feeling like the worse mother on planet earth and that tomorrow I will change!

Today scrolling thru Facebook, Huffington Post posted this lovely post about what else, MOMS. "The video every mom must watch on repeat until she gets it" with the caption "...do not hit play unless you have tissues in hand" So you know I just had to watch, and I swear 15 seconds in I had that tissue working!
I always seem to torture myself during the work day with things that will make me cry.

It was so nice to see that 1 Im not the only mother that thinks the worst of herself and that 2 Im not a horrible, evil mother. That our littles more than likely do love us. But something you learn or realize as time goes by, you cant help but constantly think that you are messing up your kids in some way. As a parent, I think that will never change. You will forever worry about the impression you are making on these little people that look up to you!.....and thats a scary thing!

welp...

As you can see there is no Pumkin mess Pt 2. So sad I know! But when we went home Tuesday night, we found poor Khalese's pumpkin on the kitchen floor next to Chewie!! Talk about a HUGE mess!

But tonight's Halloween and we're ready. Khalese is the only child that will be in full costume but we're all going out as a family like every year and hitting up Baema's ( thats Bae's mommy) neighborhood.

I know Kayla and MeKai will be down in the dumps but this mommy's gotta stick to her word! They need to get themselves together and think about the consequences of their actions. They also need to keep in mind that Christmas is around the corner and Miss Kayla's birthday is a week before so they better shape up.

I swear Im not an evil mommy set to make my children's live miserable.

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

sometimes I wonder

For all my parents out there reading this, when the kids mess up and get punished, do you ever wonder if your punishment was too harsh? Sometimes I feel like I second guess myself more often than not.

Today Kayla is FREE! Her punishment is finally over. Girlie got grounded for 2 weeks AND was not able to get a Halloween costume because of it. Long story short, Kayla has her mother's sweet tooth and was constantly sneaking sweets any and every chance she got. Once we got wind of this we talked to her and punished her by just grounding her for a week and no dessert. Pfft I think thats the biggest joke cuz back in my day we didnt get dessert (wow I feel super old everytime I say back in my day *sigh*) but my littles think they are supposed to get it every night. Any who, the very next day, miss one decided to eat cookies by the handful. When I found out and I asked her about it, she was very honest, which we always appreciate, and that's when I added another week because c'mon we just had this talk less than 24 hours ago. So I grounded her and told her that one more thing comes up shes not going to get a Halloween costume, no if ands or buts about it! 24 hours later...sneaking Oreo's! I swear I thought I was bad but shes got me beat. So NO COSTUME! Trust me that I felt truly bad about it because this is totally a kids holiday. They look forward to dressing up and getting candy by the bag full. But she did this to herself and I have to keep my word right?!  

MeKai is on the same boat with her! This dear child of mine can not seem to detach from any electronic to take himself to the bathroom. They're his biggest issue. So naturally he had an accident while playing on the IPad but the icing on the cake was that 1. he didnt tell us about it and 2. he didnt change himself. We've always told him we understand accidents will happen, and although we dont think him having an accident while in the house, while watching TV is by any means ok, he needs to change himself immediately. We grounded him October 10th and told him that he had 21 DAYS to get himself together and earn his costume back. Day 3 same issue. Here we are less than 2 days away and weve had the same scenario happen about 3 more times.

The dilemma: I hate that they cant have their costumes! But I know I have to follow thru with their punishment that I came up with. I did this all on my own even T looked at me side ways but then she smiled that thats my girl! 

My compromise: They get to participate for Halloween and get a costume BUT a costume that Bae & I make or pick out. Or you dont get to participate. I have the cutest idea for Kayla that naturally came from Pinterest and I can totally see her owning it! Bae found this cute BEMO for MeKai that shes thinking of making. Bae is pretty crafty so I know she can get it done in 2 days!

I'd love to know what you think of my mess! What mess have you had to deal with and how did you go about it.




Pumpkin mess Pt 1

Last night the T & I got the girls started on carving theyre pumpkins. They picked out their picture to carve and went to work. I had clearly forgotten how smelly the inside of a pumpkin is yuck!


It was so cute to see them enjoy themselves the way they did. They were beyond proud when they were
done.

Tonight T, MeKai and myself will be carving the bigger pumpkin and the remaining little ones :) MeKai has a habit of always picking the baby pumpkins at every patch that we go too. He's done this since the first time we ever took them to a pumpkin patch, so naturally he was upset that he couldnt careve his little guy last night. It'll be fun to see him getting mess with his Bae♥

Monday, October 28, 2013

blog blog blog

I have been trying to revamp this little blog of mine to make it feel more like...me! But man this whole making a blog thing and making it all your own is wayyy harder than I thought.

Ive been messing with the font, I changed the whole blog name, I know probably not very helpful to the oh so many followers I have LOL I just stumbled upon this thing called PAGES I know as time goes by you will see that I have my very random and slow moments so please bare with me :) Anywho these lovely pages that Ive seen on everyones blogs and Ive always wondered how in the heck they got them and why cant I have some...now I DO!

This girl is slowly but surely learning. So just enjoy this little ride of changes...change is good!

Friday, October 25, 2013

sweet happiness

T had a blog way back when and I just so happened to have it on my reading list. Unfortunately, I cant go to her blog anymore but I can read little snippets from her 2 year old posts.

It was bitter sweet reading her post. Most were of us and the littles and how excited she was to have a new camera to play with. But there was one post in particular that made me kinda teary. It was named Accept and there was a picture of...ME! and all it said was "Im perfectly happy here. With her...with them...with me :)" and 5 years later I have no doubt that she feels the same.

We are far from the perfect couple. We argue and yell and get annoyed like the next couple. We cry, we laugh, we ignore but above it all we LOVE! She is my best friend and I know that I can count on her for anything!

Some how this just turned into the mushiest post ever and that was not my intention....ahem but yes lets just say that this girl has finally found sweet happiness with someone she never saw coming.




Thursday, October 24, 2013

retail therapy

Yesterday was an OK day until it was time to go home. The kids and I leave the office, head down to the car and whats this...a BOOT on my car! Great! After dealing with the boot and missing Kayla's soccer practice, I just wanted to crawl into bed and go to sleep.

As T & I sat on our couch I turn to her and ask "...wanna go to Michael's?" and who can turn down a trip to Michael's right?! Definitely not T. So as we head to the car T suggested that we make our way to Sal! and yesterday was WEDNESDAY which means CUSTOMER APPRECIATION DAY 25% OFF EVERYTHING! So these girls were ready to find some great things!


Heres find number 1. We found some great picture frames many were made of wood that we can play around with and make them all our own which I love! 

Off our high of such amazing finds we headed to Michael's. And it was our night because they were having a huge sale as well! S C O R E! 


Heres a little collage of what we picked up. Those cute little owls on the top right were 70% off! Steal right! I dont know what it is, but Im totally into owls right now and Im not ashamed. I also got myself those 2 cute little box shelves and some paint and went to work on them last night. Im so excited to put them up! 

Let me say that I love that I have a wife that is ok with us going shopping, even if it is for little trinkets, when Im feeling down or after a bad day. Im such a lucky girl♥





Wednesday, October 23, 2013

Trip to Sal

So Ive decided to start this Blog thing all over again! Right Ive said it before but Im really gonna try this time.

Ive recently, well as of yesterday, started following the cutest blog! touch of serendipity Ragan is super cute and random like myself and I love it! T and I are currently in the middle of trying to refurnish our little apartment, make it more homey, and looking at Ragans blog weve gotten so many easy DIY ideas. So T went on the hunt for some cute ideas/projects of our own. Let me say that I did NOT expect her to be this excited or find projects that look like they require a lot of work.


Take this new couch project that she wants to do! Cute no doubt about it, the labor behind it eh Im not too sure about.


THIS super cute! I would love to make this but again seems like a lot of work!


&& lets not even talk about this home G A R D E N! Ive always wanted a garden but weve always lived in apartments and I never got around to buying those hanging over the balcony things to make a garden but this I dont know! Yes a lot of work but I think itll be worth it!

During her Googling expedition, T got the bright idea that we should take a trip to Sal (Salvation Army) Her mom is great for finding awesome rustic furniture that T thinks would be fun DIY projects. So looks like well be spending some time at Home Depot and Sal and locked up in our home for awhile!